Maturity.

"The things you learn in maturity aren't simple things such as acquiring information and skills. You learn not to engage in self-destructive behaviour. You learn not to burn up energy in anxiety. You discover how to manage your tensions. You learn that self-pity and resentments are among the most toxic of drugs. You find that the world loves talent but pays off on characters." - John Gardner

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To know yourself well, and to understand what is really important to yourself. Many questions have to be answered by yourselves and oftentimes it takes a long long time before they finally align. Even in the moment now, aren’t you just grateful for all the connections and companies that brought us here today?

Maturity does not come with age, it comes with practice - the information you feed yourself with, the values you practice each day, the principles you uphold each day. And all these come after understanding what you value which has nothing to do with what others think, and purely because it is something you resonate with and want to build up.

Becoming mature also means you take care of yourself - your physical and mental well-being, to be able to manage your emotions and make yourself more resilient. And another critical trait would be to see yourself as who you are . Neither should you overestimate or underestimate your capability, but simply evaluate the ‘you’ right now, and what is the ‘you’ you foresee or want to be.

It is about having the confidence that you would be able to close that gap independently, and you do not have to wait for anyone to make it happen. It means being able to look past your circumstances and see opportunities out there to make it happen. We as human being are insignificant in the large scheme of the world. Once we reconcile with the fact that I am unimportant in the world, we would be able to forgo many expectations and assumptions - that all are merely facade in disguise of truth.

Being mature allows you to bring happiness to yourself. When you radiate with happiness, you attract happiness. And the mind speaks loud of your truth so be attached to the depth of your soul and don’t get clouded by the noise of superficiality. At the end of the day, you know all actions come from choices and well-thought plans towards it. And it comes from the struggles and desires to become better as every mature being strive after so intensely because stagnant would never satisfy the curiosity of those minds wanting to find out the world of wonders.

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Some good read about Meaning of Life.

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Maybe I am writing in the perspective of my own pursuit and outlook of life. So ultimately, maturity simply suggests we can confidently be us. Just how often I see people stray away from what they truly want because “all that don’t earn you money”, “I have my parents to take care”, “too many people are better than me”. In this thought process, so many other factors took precedence over ‘you’. You compromise yourself for what other people demand of you. Economically, salary is naturally higher for jobs that are highly demanded in the business arena. Too often we measure the meaning of life with material possessions which is believed by many to be of higher value than your ‘penny’ dream. Your parents, your doubt about yourself, comparison to others - all these are mere excuses you give yourself to put the blame on others for keeping you at the same spot when in fact, we are always the only person stopping ourselves from taking that first step out of the comfort zone.

If anything that could be measured closely with maturity would be happiness. A mature person would see that to be happy means you starts to accept that the human being at this point of time is enough and is the best version of the moment. Don’t discount yourself of your effort to build up the small things, as invisible as it might be, they are all milestones leading to today.

Perhaps your days still seem as per the routine - wake up, breakfast, lunch, dinner, sleep. However, your mind starts to tell you a different story when you start to view the world with a mature outlook and zest. You start to feel lighter in the face of stress and you start to do life creatively because there’s just simply so much in this wonderful world as an ordinary human than constantly ruminating about the imminent trouble.

If you start to see beauty in your surrounding, you start to vibe with it and all that comes along with maturity. It brings clarity and a sense of relief that “all will be okay” and yes, it indeed does.

Final note:

“You don’t stumble upon opportunities sitting down.”

Start working hard to become who you are, instead of blindly chasing after what is "right". Know your why and your vision about the future you wish to see.

Everyone else is taken, so learn to be comfortable with yourself. (I cringed)